This morning my therapist threw a real curve ball at me. Out of nowhere, she asked, “What would you do if you knew without a doubt that you would succeed and that failure was not an option?” I froze for a second. I’ve never thought about the possibility of not failing. I’m more of a dream big, but within reason kind of girl. Safety first. Failure isn’t fun. So, quite frankly, I usually avoid putting myself into any situation where failing could be a possibility. I guess I play it a bit small sometimes. I live inside a little safe box.
My therapist looked at me expectantly and I really didn’t have an answer for her. It had just dawned on me that even though I coach my clients to reach beyond the stars, that they could make whatever they imagined possible, lately I have been catching myself doing quite the opposite, shrinking into a tiny box for fear of failure. What would I do if I knew I could succeed?
I mean I love my job. I really do. Coaching is my calling, but there is more to life than work and ultimately, being a coach is a job. Sometimes I blur that line and just live my work, maybe that’s how I’ve kept my box so small. I’ve allowed my job to mask my fear of failure.
And what good does that really do?
Maybe, you’re doing the same – allowing yourself to hide
behind something that is safe and secure.
It’s possible, my friend, we are doing ourselves a disservice- closing ourselves off
from something BIG.
Maybe, just maybe, something better.
When I started my healing journey just a few short years ago, I began to become comfortable with the idea of failure. I became comfortable with falling on my face. Messing up. Getting it wrong. Saying the wrong thing. Looking like I’ve lost my dang mind. I gave myself that permission to fuck it up.
So, let’s do this together, okay? Let’s figure out the answer to my therapist’s question.
“What would you do if you knew without a doubt that you would succeed and that failure was not an option?”
Seriously, write it all down – the crazy, the wild, the scary, the seemingly unrealistic.
Make a promise to yourself that you will see all possibilities as actually possibilities,
and then get out there and go after it!
Do it scared.
Do it afraid.
Do it petrified.
Do it excited.
Do it happy.
Do it mad.
Do it sad.
Do it when you’re unmotivated.
Do it because you deserve it.
Do it because you love yourself and you made that commitment to you.
Do it because you trust that your gut knows what is best for you.
Do it because you fucking can and because you owe it to your 5 year old self.
Stop playing small and start paying attention to those tiny voices and those ideas that come rolling through your mind. Stop brushing them off and minimizing them.
(and I’ll do it, too <3)
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