Everything’s fine. Fine. Everything’s fine. Right?
Pandemic? No problem–there’s a mask for that, hand sanitizer, washing hangs constantly, laying low. Political unrest? Easy–read, educate, watch the news, talk to family and friends. Work? There’s some normalcy, right? Yuuuup….sure. Do my work, focus, get results, work towards that big promotion. Family? We are doing GREAT–kids are taken care of, laundry, dishes, the house. Ohhhh, the house….
Working on renovations? Perfect. Dream house, coming right along. Relationship? Got that covered–sweet, attentive, adventurous. Sure. Yup. We are GOOD. I can handle it all. Self care? Meal prepping, working out, doing yoga, I meditated last week…doing all the things. Truly, I am fine….but my jeans are tighter, my face seems hollow, my skin is dull. What am I doing wrong? How can I be figuring out how to get everything done, but yet, this weight just won’t budge?
Have you figured out your “new normal?”
Have you figured out that there is no normal?
You may be balancing everything life is throwing at you, but I have a feeling something isn’t quite as balanced as you think it is–mainly, your relationship with YOU.
Stress is a funny thing. It’s important, sure–think “fight or flight,” but it can also be harmful to our health if left to it’s own devices. Stress is our survival guide when there’s a tiger coming at us full tilt, but luckily, we don’t often have to run from tigers. Now, imagine you did live a life where tigers were continuously charging right into your living room. Just reading that gets your heart racing, doesn’t it? Well, when we leave our stress coping skills unchecked and just keep piling on more to do lists or bottling up emotions, that’s essentially what we are doing. We are letting the jungle run wild in our lives and while we are busy running away from predators, we have the audacity to ask our bodies to do more than protect our vital organs and limbs…we ask it to lose weight or grow long locks or diminish blemishes.
I mean, seriously? Do your body a favor and please, stop running from imaginary tigers. First step to learning to deal with stress is to acknowledge that you have it in the first place. Now, it’s time to dive into the stressors you’ve just admitted to.
Is it emotional?
Can you talk to a therapist, a coach or a friend that you trust?
Is it lack of activity (or even too much of it?”)
Would it be possible to manage your time better, maybe to start saying “no” instead of “yes” if it isn’t serving you any longer?
Stress is inevitable. We had it before and we certainly have it now. It’s okay to feel it. Heck, it’s VITAL to feel it–but know that you are more than capable of making the choice to not allow it to control you.
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One day at a time. One step at a time. You always have a choice. Choose YOU, friend. I promise you won’t regret it.